12/24/09

Relationships: Dealing with conflict -2

Now that we know that unresolved conflicts cause untold harm, let us first understand how to deal with it.

It is imperative to understand when two individuals are involved conflict in one form or the other is inevitable. Hence there is no need to take make it a life and death issue.

Similarly deal with issues causing the conflict immediately. Putting it off to later date only increases the chance of failure and decreases the opportunities for resolution. Understand once for all that conflict fails to mend with time.

It is important to subjugate ones perspective and understand the other person’s point of view. If you are able to do that more than 75% of the issues are resolved.

Conflicts are emotionally charged issues. Therefore, it is important to separate your emotion from the issue, but at the same time, understand that the other person’s emotions are mixed in this.

To put it simply, do not bring emotional baggage, slights and insults into the already charged up atmosphere. Address the issue dispassionately even if the other person speaks disparagingly about you, because resolving the conflict is more important than scoring points or causing emotional scars.