Arguments start when we set out to prove we are right and end in trying to prove others wrong. When the other person refuses to accept and sticks to his point of view we get vehement and a full blown argument ensues, leaving none the wiser.
This doesn't mean that arguments are a waste of time, shorn off passion and personal dislikes arguments helps fostering relationships, broadens our knowledge and expands our world view.
However, if we are going to argue it is better to ask ourselves these questions.
If you're going to raise an issue, are you sure this is the main thing that's bothering you?
If you're going to raise an issue, are you sure it's worth risking a potential argument?
If you're going to raise this issue, are you using the guidelines in Productive arguing?
Remember what Joseph Farrell said "If you go in for argument, take care of your temper. Your logic, if you have any, will take care of itself. "
